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Dealing with body dysmorphic disorder?

I normally wouldn't have the courage to post my photo online, but I feel so awful and so depressed that at this point I don't think it matters. I'm now 31 years old and I haven't been in any kind of relationship for more than eleven years. My therapist has discussed a disorder known as Body Dysmorphic Disorder (or BDD), and it sounds a lot like what I experience. I wish that I could wake up in the morning, and as I'm preparing for the day, at least feel somewhat good about my appearance. When you've had people run you down to your face (and on one occasion have someone tell you that you look like Beavis) it makes it very difficult to have a sense of self-esteem and value. I don't know what to do anymore. It would be a dream come true for me if I could have plastic surgery and look like someone else, but I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon. The feelings of worthlessness that make up my existence is something that I wouldn't wish upon anyone, not even on someone I hated. My parents, one of the few people that I would disucss this with in person, say that I'm handsome. But, they're my parents. How many mothers or fathers do you know of who would tell their son or daughter they are ugly? Our parents always see us through different eyes than the rest of the world. http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn111/iceman1978/Personal%20Photos/IMAGE_020-1-1.jpg http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn111/iceman1978/Personal%20Photos/IMAGE_020-1-1.jpg http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn111/iceman1978/Personal%20Photos/IMAGE_020-1-1.jpg Try these photos http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn111/iceman1978/IMG_7590-1.jpg http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn111/iceman1978/Personal%20Photos/My%20Own/DSCN0041.jpg http://i302.photobucket.com/albums/nn111/iceman1978/Personal%20Photos/My%20Own/MeonFrontSteps.jpg

Public Comments

1. I don't get it. We can't really see your face. The little bit I can see looks good to me!
2. Take all the time, energy, thought, effort and worry about what is not right about you and try, try, try if only for a few days to only concentrate on whats right about you. I didn't look at your pictures but there must be some part of you that looks good to you. Pick at least three things about yourself and put all your effort into making those good things fantastic. Just try it for a few days, it couldn't hurt.
3. I can't really see much of your face, but if you're so worried about looking like someone else, you could do something smaller and less expensive or risky such as getting your hair cut, getting contacts, that sort of thing. EDIT From what I can see of your face, you look like a pretty handsome guy.
4. you're not ugly at all! i saw a documentary on this, and it was awful to see these people think of themselves in such fear and hatred towards themselves. i think you'd need to get some therapy for this and take it step by step towards feeling better about your appearance, i hope some of that helped!
5. Seriously you're a good looking guy, there is nothing ugly about your face. So the BDD diagnosis seems pretty accurate to me. If you did get plastic surgery, I guarantee you would still be dissatisfied with how you look. BDD is when you hate your looks in a delusional manner, and when your delusional, it doesn't matter how you look in real life. My advice is to get into therapy, get medication and you will some day, be satisfied with how you look. You should feel good about your appearance, I know a ton of guy who look worse than you but have a lot of confidence. Good luck.