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How can I come to terms with being ugly?

I'm not very attractive and I know it. I'm a 20 year old female. I have a boyfriend, and he says I'm pretty, so do my family members, but that's it. And growing up I had to put up with jibes and later on high school I had to put up with rejection from the guys I liked... plus, no other guys liked me. I had a lot of friends though, so it's not like I have a lousy personality or that I'm shy. Guys even said it was easy talking to me, but they fancied my friends better, because they were prettier. One guy once told me I was so ugly that I should get plastic surgery, because there was still hope. I've only ever dated my boyfriend, no one else, and I was lucky he wasn't shallow... but still, his exes are prettier, and every celebrity he fancies is gorgeous, he also watches porn sometimes with women a lot more beautiful and sexier than me. Anyway, I have nice hair, nice color and shiny. However, it's too thin, and I don't have much (if I do a ponytail, it looks ridiculous, it's a bit thicker than my thumb). My eyebrows are hard to deal with. My eyes are brown (boring). My nose is too round. My lips too small. And my jaw is too wide (man-jaw). Then my body. I'm not overweight, but I feel fat, because in pictures I look fat, though I've lost like 20 lbs. and people say I'm thin. I have small breasts, but they aren't nice (big areolas). Small waist, huge hips. Huge thighs... jiggly and all. My butt isn't too big, and though my boyfriend likes it, but I don't since it's wide but it doesn't have much projection plus I have cellulite all over! It's unfair. There are girls who have everything regarding looks. Gorgeous face/hair, hot bodies (big boobs, tiny waist, round perky butt, long, lean legs). Some have one flaw but other to compensate (for instance, small breasts but a nice, perfect butt). I have nothing to compensate. And don't say "looks don't matter", 'cause they do, I had a crap childhood because of the jibes and awful love life in high school. Sure, I am a nice person, I am smart, but so are many of the gorgeous girls out there! Plus, I'm becoming bitter towards the way good looks are idolized. How do I come to terms with the fact I'm unattractive. I have nothing that stands out, everything is either average or below average. I would never get plastic surgery or extensions, because it's all fake! I wish I were naturally beautiful and hot... :( I know being beautiful isn't all there is to life, but being ugly gets to me with all I've got to put up with and with how being beautiful is emphasized in the media. To some of you it may sound vain and stupid, and maybe you can't relate, but sometimes I wish I were truly beautiful. Good points, but I'm not really fat, so working out will tone me a bit and nothing else (probably leave me flat chested), and yes, I'm healthy, but so are beautiful people. To <3 If you don't have anything constructive to say, don't say it. If you think I'm obsessing over it too much, then don't answer! SImple... To everyone else: Plus, just because I have a boyfriend doesn't make me beautiful. So ugly people have no chance at love? Tough.

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Work out daily to develop a body that you feel comfortable in...eat healthy and take fish oil capsules .. seriously..it helps the hair, skin, and the eyes trust me. Keep a smile on your face everyone looks better happy
post up a picture:) you sound like a beautiful & smart person. you dont have cancer. look at the bright side.
This is probably one of the most heart breaking things I have read in a looong time. What is up, hun? You just said that you have a great personality, you are easy to talk to, you are obviously very smart just by reading your question and how you talk... I know it is so cliche to say there are more to a person than just their looks but it is so true! How many of these "gorgeous" women have body image issues themselves and suffer with eating disorders and depression? Everyone has flaws and to think some women don't is a lie... I recently got this verse tattooed on my wrist, its been something I have clung to for a long time as I struggle with self esteem and my body image... Isaiah 43:4 ~ You are precious to me, you are honored and I love you... You say your average and have nothing to compensate for your looks? How about you let your attitude and the way you treat and relate to others compensate? Beauty shines from within... love yourself. God Bless :)
Well guess what girl Im pretty...much going threw the same thing Ive been called ugly then been called hot ive been asked out but the wrong guys :( and if i put my hair in a pony my face looks hidious lol TRY getting a totally different hair cutt like I just did I accually like my hair bettr before but its somthing different and I hate how everyone says why do u wear ur hair the same way everyday? Well i would just tell them cuz everytime I do it different u guys put me down about it looking ugly! Just ignore them say well sorry Okay if u have small boobs u have small body I belive them the size of ur boobs is the size of ur body so thats accually a good thing but if u lost weight BETTER! so ur doing a good job just sleep on it a couple days ignore thos ppl...be ur self if u have a boyfriend that says ur beautiful then u are. Why would anyone want to be ur boyfriend if ur ugly? So ur pretty...and dont get ur self down about it...cuz then that will not attract guys in any way if ur not confident about ur self :D :D :D
you really didnt need to list everything bad about you. stop obsessing over this. just accept yourself and be thankful for your boyfriend...
Your right, looks can matter at times See,I'm overweight and I do have some features to compensate for it but I still think I'm ugly from time to time.I think your problem is that you think that you have problems with yourself but you are insecure because you hear the taunts from people and you start to believe them. Trust me,you probably wouldn't have a boyfriend or maybe even friends if you were as ugly as you described. All I can say is I bet your cover girl material Have more faith in yourself:)
hmmm idk what to say except you probably think your way worse then you really are most people do unless their completley shallow and everyone can look good it just depends on what you do and how you take care of yourself im not a girl so idk all the things girls do to pamper themselves (which is probably way more then i do lol) i didnt like the way i looked so i went and lost 50lbs and now everyday i just shave my face and put some face moisturizer since my face dries out bad and trim the body hair (which is my worst flaw now i belive) but yeah ive seen alot of unatractive girls look really good after pampering themselves just go get a proffesional to tell you what to do to yourself they wont lie... o yeah you probably look better then your boyfreind too lol
well i think everyone has a soulmate he may be the one