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Guys - Should having a facial flaw stop me from asking a guy out?

Alright, so I'd like to get to know this guy better. We have hung out twice. I wanted to ask him out but I have one problem. I have a really awful flaw on my face. I don't want to get plastic surgery because having this flaw has humbled me throughout my life and also lets me know if someone likes me for me. Besides this flaw, I would be about a 9 and a half on the looks scale. People say that guys think a woman who has confidence is sexy, but does that only apply to beautiful women? I'd like to ask him out, but I'm afraid he will think "What is she thinking? Doesn't she know she's ugly?" I've had about 4 or 5 boyfriends in my life, so it hasn't completely stopped me from dating.

Public Comments

1. well, whats the flaw?
2. what is your flaw?
3. No! go for it! I mean, honestly... we live once. Who the hell cares if we're rejected, it's not like there are any harsh consequences... and you'll never know unless you give it a try.
4. its nuthing wrong with that its just guys dont understand the fact that you are different from other girls THATS WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE but yea your a good girl you should get back out there and try again hope i helped
5. Look, just ask him out. It shouldn't be a big deal. If a person is confident, they look beautiful. I know one girl who isn't that pretty, but everyone thinks is because of her confidence (I'm the only one who realized she wasn't pretty because I liked her boyfriend, so I was looking for a fault in her I could say I didn't have) If you look closely at her you can see she's not that attractive, but her confidence makes her beautiful Not makeup. She doesn't wear makeup. So go for it!
6. If he's already hanging out with you then obviously he doesn't care about your "flaw". If he was so grossed out thought you were sooo ugly then he wouldn't be your friend to begin with, i'm not the most stunning girl in the world, but if you put on a pair of heals or do yourself up and make yourself feel good, when you walk in that room he will notice how you feel about yourself and if he likes you then there won't be any doubt. Confidence, sweety, is the best thing you can have.
7. Mmmm,..... Let's take a step back here hun. This is a good example of something that I've just asked a question on myself. Ok,..... You see this facial flaw that you have as making you unattractive, but first of all, think about what that word actually means. We live in a society today that now bases whether someone is a worthy potential partner chiefly on looks. I'd say that this is the case for around 85% of people BUT,...... look at the other people fall within this catagory: Practically ALL people who will cheat on their partner at some point. Practically ALL people who will leave their partner for a "better looking catch". Practically ALL people that, after the initial honeymoon of a relation ship has worn off, with stop to do all those little things that makes a woman (and men too) feel special. Practically ALL people that will generally look out for their own interests and put them above yours,........ The list goes on and on,.... If you don't feel that your looks are your best feature, think of it as a filtering method by which you automatically ge the 10-15% of men who ARE worth having and are sheilded from the 85-90% of men who AREN'T worth having,..... Makes you think differently doesn't it? :) I'm probably alot older than you (and wiser *cough*cough*) and I've learned in that time that nature is alot like the food industry,..... It has to package it's cr*p well to get people interested in it :P I won't tell you that "everyone's beautiful on the inside" cause that's just garbage,..... I've seen plenty of operations on TV and we're all red, yucky and gooey. Just be YOU,...... It may well be that if you do have a facial flaw SOME men will view as less than perfect and move onto the next girl, but like I've said before, that isn't a bad thing. If they're basing being with you on looks and you were the second prettiest girl in the village, if the prettiest girl in the village took an interest in them, you'd be history and get your heart broken. On the other hand, if they've looked deeper then they tend to stay deeper come rain or come shine. That's why you get women in their 50's who were the town stunner in their youth crying into their gin-and-tonic wondering why they've gone through life getting the wrong sort of men and growing old lonely. A bit lengthy all that, but I hope it helped. Good luck. Oh and if you're English,...... Give me a call ;)