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How can I FEEL better about myself. Please Please Answer ):?

People say im pretty and stuff sometimes but I dont know... I do not think im ugly really, I just think im average. But i want to feel pretty. A few days ago I tried taking my friends advice of trying some eyliner and makeup but then i looked in the mirror, and i looked completly unatural and i felt very ugly inside. I started to cry. A few days later i started a very bad habit, i would spend hours on the computer looking for pictures of amazingly pretty girls, print them out, tape them to my mirror and try to look like them. But i always ended up failing to look like them and i would cry terribly hard. I can wear whatever makeup and hairstyle i want but i cant change my face. (Im not doing plastic surgery). The flaws about my face (in my opinion are, I have big eyes & I have a rounder heart shaped face then most people. On top of that all my best guy friend & crush is always putting me down. Hes just joking when he does it but it makes me cry sometimes. Like one day when me and him went outside in the rain and we came back in i was soaked and my hair was a mess and he said "You look a lot better haha". And also he is always talking about how perfect and super beautiful his crush is. She is one of the girls I constantly compare myself to. What can i do to feel better about myself? Any advice PLEASE? Thanks x

Public Comments

1. Watch Kung Fu Panda. That'll make you feel better about yourself.
2. Ugh, I always think I look stupid in makeup too... Try doing little things to pamper yourself (like painting your nails etc. ) Also put on your favorite outfits (or go to the mall and try on some cute clothes) and look in the mirror and say "You are sexy" and stuff like that. I know it sounds silly but it works! The biggest thing is confidence. Think of things you love about yourself. Also, a lot of 'pretty' people have serious issues too. If you love yourself, you will exude beauty. Stand up straight and smile a lot.
3. All you have to do is, think about me: -I have a huge gap between my front teeth. -I am 5 feet and weigh 115 pounds -I have dark underarms. I need some surgery in my life. So, maybe u sld google ugly girls and imagine how they feeL about themselves. At leats you can smile. I cant bcos of my gap tooth. You sld also stay away from ur friend.
4. i'm really sorry you feel that way, hun. just remember you're beautiful, and i mean that! as for your crush, if he doesn't see you as beautiful, then he's not worth your time.
5. Boys can be mean sometimes. Just relax. I'm sure you're beautiful, and this boy is just being a idiot. He's probably "blinded by love" Or something, and don't react badly to the negative jokes and he will stop. I know that he will. I did this test on this girl that had a crush on me, and made her freind tell her (not from me) to ignore me, and when she ignored the lame ass jokes i didn't feel like doing it anymore. I went out with her to humour her, but what I'm aying is just ignore it.
6. Maybe you just need to experiment with different types of makeup and hairstyles before you find one that compliemts your face. In the meantime good on you for not doing plastic surgery and try to focus on the things you like about yourself other than the things you hate, EVERYBODY has something they like and something they hate about themselves.
7. Stop assessing your value based on beauty or your conception of beauty. Let me answer your question with a question, what value does being beautiful have to society? What specific sorts of good does it do? If your answer is basically "relatively none", why assess this as your basic value? My advice would be to just focus on your own happiness, stop focusing on your own deficencies, because then you will embelish them and only see those aspects of yourself. Instead focus on your unique qualities and values. Their is so much good you could do for the world, but by lowering your own self-worth you will just handicap your capability. In a way, it's unethical to have low self-esteem.
8. Hmm, to start off, you need to not let a guy make you feel better about yourself. That is one thing that most girls make a mistake of. I was in the same situation as you about a year ago and felt horrible about myself even though people were constantly telling me about how beautiful I was and I just didn't see it. (I didn't think I was exactly ugly either, just not as pretty or I thought I was just average) Like, a guy could tell you you're beautiful one day and if you guys break up or stop talking you can say you're ugly the next. Another thing, you need to stop looking at your flaws and look at the positive sides of your looks. Since you say you tried makeup and it looked completely unnatural, you may not even need to wear makeup! You probably look beautiful naturally anyway. If I wear some makeup, most of the time it looks unnatural because I think I look fine without it or just with a little on. But if you do put makeup on, I suggest you only put on a little bit of mascara and possibly eyeliner. You don't need any foundation, blush, or eyeshadow because that'll make you look faker. But you can if you decide to go into makeup, your decision I guess. Another thing is, don't compare yourself to people. Some girls you look at in your daily lives that most people think or some people think are beautiful (such as your crush's crush) may only be beautiful to them. But not everyone thinks that person is gorgeous. II bet you some people think you're prettier than that girl! I hope I helped a bit, just don't tear yourself down!
9. I don't know if it will work for you, but some new clothes, maybe a hair cut and generally a day of pampering yourself, maybe have some friends over, do face packs, manicures, pedicures and just have a laugh. With makeup, if you don't like all the unnatural styles you could experiment with more natural styles, or different ways of wearing the more unnatural ways until you find something you're happy with. Also, big eyes I do not consider to be a flaw. Mascara, eyeliner, they're all to make your eyes look big. If you have that naturally you are extremely lucky! I think big eyes are beautiful! Also, about the rounder heart shaped face, if you wear glasses or sunglasses often try using a face shape guide to make sure you get one which evens out and accentuates the different aspects of your face shape. Clothes wise, try finding out what body shape you are and then you can get clothes which will show off your best bits and hide those which make you feel uncomfortable. Also, try not to compare yourself to others, everyone is pretty in their own way, and some of the girls you're comparing yourselves to may not be as pretty as you think. The ones which get the buys aren't always the most beautiful. Hope this helps!
10. well, before you start judging yourself by your looks, try thinking of the person you really are. are you a nice person? do you have respect for people? you can have inner beauty, as long as you have a willing heart. you sound like someone who has a lot of low self-esteem, don't think that. always think that you're a beautiful person from just the way you are :) . and all those ''pretty'' girls are fake. i'm going to do you a favor: http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=dove+fake+beauty+video&docid=1513763308057&FORM=VIRE1 watch this video, dove has this thing that's based for all girls who have low self-esteem and their beauty. and guys are jerks ... ignore them. you're better off :) . i bet you're beautiful, on the inside and outside, don't let people get back at you :) .