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How can I feel pretty and confident?

I am developing a terrible obsession with the way I look. I am so unhappy with it. I don't understand why I feel this way at all, because I will admit that through my whole life people have told me I am beautiful, even that I am the prettiest at school. But I just don't believe it, I don't know how to explain it, it's not as if I think people are lying to me, I just kind of think they aren't looking hard enough? That they aren't seeing how horrible I actually can look. I am completely aware of how ridiculous that is, but I just cannot take a genuine compliment. I'm disgusted at myself for feeling so strongly about this because I am very down to earth and the last thing I would EVER do it judge someone else on the way they look. I never used to be like this. I am so self concious, I cry about how hideous I feel, it makes me not want to see or talk to anybody, and it's so hard because I can't talk to any of my friends and family because I just know all of this seems like I am a selfish silly vain little girl - maybe I am? :( I secretly compare myself to EVERYONE I see, I go out of my way to find pictures of pretty people I know or just celebrities and compare my every feature. There is nothing I like about my body or face. There is so much I would like to change, I even search prices and procedures of plastic surgery. Anyway, the one thing I am glad about is that I know I never used to feel this way so I CAN feel good about myself again, and I'm glad I know that I need to change before this gets even worse. I am seeking proffessional help, but in the meanwhile, what makes you feel pretty? How can you feel good about yourself? Answers from anyone would be good, but especially anyone who has gone through something like this before and come out of it ... xxx Hahaha, the name is a joke, don't worry ... all these answers help, it's really nice to have some support, I'm feeling better already ... thank you. :)

Public Comments

1. A quick fix would be change your avatar name
2. i have the same problem.... i obsess over my looks. i have bad ocd. thats a reason why. umm i mean u can go to a conselour ! i know that sounds weird but its actually realy helpful . just look at life at a diffferent persepctive.
3. It's an issue that probably stemmed from something. Perhaps someone in your life didn't accept you, or didn't accept you the way you wanted them too and it's been bugging you subconsciously ever since. I know it seems kind of cliche, and possibly corny, but maybe you should think about it. Maybe you're looking for a certain someone to give you that compliment before you can start accepting it. It's obviously an underlying issue. If you don't figure it out within a few months and still feel overwhelmed talk to a psychologist and try to get to the root of the issue.
4. Feeling confident has nothing to do with your outer appearance. If you are happy with yourself it will attract other people to you and confidence is sexy! No one is perfect so you don't need to be so obsessed with your looks.
5. have you ever heard of body dysmorphic disorder? confront your doctor about how you are feeling and suggest that you might have bdd. get reffered to a psychologist and get help before this escalates into an uncontrollable state
6. im not sure how often you look in the mirror. but i used to look in the mirror all the time because i was also insecure about the way i looked. believe it or not the less you look in the mirror the prettier you feel. once your start thinking your pretty you can start looking more often. also take picture of yourself sometimes you might want to go to a salon and get a manicure and pedicure... it makes you feel like a princess so that helps your confidence. also go to the beach/ malls/ any hang out spot for people your age and just randomly ask hot guys for their number... you dont necessarily have to text or call them but if you get it you know that they thought you were hot back obviously all guys wont give you their number. shit happens but it helps A TON! Im sorry to say but taking extra time with your hair in the morning or makeup also makes you feel prettier(: one more thing is im not sure if you wear a lot of makeup or not but if you wear -blush -eyeliner -eyeshadow -mascara -foundation -powder -concealer -etc. THATS TOO MUCH your trying to hide your face less is more . maybe wear mascara and light eyeliner and ocassionally eyeshadow/ if you NEED TO put conealer on some trouble spots and you should be out the door like i said idk if you wear alot but if you do that will help because you look twice as good with half the stuff it will take a while for you to start looking at yourself as pretty but if you do it it helps! i really hope i helped bc this helped me HUG$ <333
7. The number one way to feel confindent is to believe the simple statement: every human being created on earth is beautiful no matter what. It doesn't matter on the outside but again its on the inside, and if you are truley a good person on the inside, then you ARE beautiful and if you feel beaufitul, you will be beautiful because your confidence will shine through and light up the room :) One tip used is stand naked infront of a full length mirror every morning and pick one single thing you like about yourself, once the days go by and you pick more and more things that you like, you will become more confident in yourself.
8. Wow. BIGGG question, but it tends to be one a lot of young girls act. That is, I'm assuming that you're a teenager. And a girl. Anyways, to start off, you're not a vain little girl. You're feeling the pressure many other girls feel. Media has stressed perfection in people, expecially young women, for a while now. Which, I'm sure you're aware of. As for yourself, consider therapy seriously. But for the advice, do nice, healthy things that won't only make you look better, it'll help you feel better too. Buy (or make) facial masks and treat your skin, buy a super-cute, colourful outfit that you love, have a sleep-over with you're friends and do mani-pedi's, buy some new, fresh makeup to shake up your look, re-shape your diet and exercise routine such as.. -Drinking LOTS of water. (good for skin, hair, etc) -Cutting back on the obvious, like soda and junk food. -Go swimming, it is summer, after all. Plus, it burns tons of calories and is super fun. Those are just basics, but trust me, doing all these things always makes me feel better about myself, hopefully they'll help you! Good luck, darling.
9. If people told you then you are beautiful then you are beautiful..i used to feel the same way..i used to go to school and come home and cry about how i horrible i looked with the outfit i had on even it was super hot but you know...look at yourself in the mirror...picture something so hideous and ugly then comeback to reality then realize that you are truly beautiful.. i used to feel so uncomfortable in my skin..i used to be super shy and when i conversate with people i used to just think that they might be thinking why im so ugly..i felt ugly compared to my friends..if i saw someone on myspace who was cute i would be like why can i not look like her..you may even feel like why am i like this?..this is just a stage as you get older you become more comfortable..if you want to become more confident, put on make up, do your hair and just look at yourself because you are truly beautiful inside and out..don't bring yourself down.and if you callin yourself skanky then you must be pretty if you getting boys like that..lol..j/k..but going under the knife can be an addiction..sometimes it makes you uglier and feel fake...its going to be okay..look in the mirror and think about those people who told you you were beautiful and try to see what you see..point out your perfections...maybe yur pretty eyes or if you have golden clear skin....:)..contact me if you need me