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How can I bring up cosmetic surgery to my mother? (Teen girl question)?

I'm 16 and a junior in high school and painfully insecure about my body. I have stretch marks from puberty in 3 areas, and my breasts are too big, uneven, sagging, and scarred. I'll be completely honest, I know that my case is nothing EXTREME but it really feels that way for me and it is paralyzing other aspects of my life. I have a history of depression among other psychiatric disorders and it really affects me harshly. I want to bring up the idea of laser surgery for stretch marks and breast surgery to my mother. Money is not an issue, so price is nothing to worry about; and my sister has had breast surgery (she's 27), so we know a doctor already. How do I sit her down and talk about this? Please help.

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1. ok, you are 16, you dont need cosmetic surgery.
2. No problem bringing it up. It shouldn't be something difficult to do. It is your mother. Be warned though, laser surgery really won't fix the stretch marks, they will fade over time, but never disappear. Stretch marks are NORMAL and most women have them. About the breast surgery - I imagine most surgeons would prefer to wait until you are done growing before operating. This means waiting a few years.
3. Be completely honest with your mom. Your mom doesn't know these things unless you are willing to talk to her. I'm going to bet that your mom would be crushed if she knew that you were so unhappy with your body and didn't think you could discuss it with her. Choose a time when the two of you can have some privacy without a chance of being interrupted and just tell her that you are bothered by all the stretch marks and ask about the laser surgery to reduce them. As for breast reduction, ask her if she could schedule an appointment for you to discuss this with the doctor as it is causing you some physical discomfort in playing sports, etc. The doctor will determine whether or not you are a good candidate for this. Or, you could get your sister involved and she could initiate the conversation with your mom. Your mom would love to help .... just let her.
4. First off you still be growing so the doctor may not want to do anything. Bio-oil or vitamin E can get rid of stretch marks (well fade them till they're un-noticeable), and as for your breasts a good bra should be able to stop the sagginess. Get yourself properly fitted. Please try other safer methods before going under the knife that should be your very last option. The bio-oil or vitamin E (whichever you choose, I use bio-oil and it works) you have to be patient it may take a couple of weeks to really start working. If none of this works. Sit down with your Mum and gently tell her how you're feeling, what you've previously tried and what you would like to do. Perhaps research pricing and similar of the procedures you want and save some money to go towards it this'll let your Mum you're serious about this. If your Mum says no you're going to have to live with that and you'll have to wait until you're 18 (or 21 depending on where you're from) but in the meantime save up the money for it).