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Second plastic surgery?

Okay in 2004 my Mum had a face lift, which we all tried to talk her out of, she looked very strange and still does a lilttle bit, but we all said it will be fine when it settles down. She was looking fine and has no double chin at all and plenty of cheek bone, no wrinkles etc. Definately didn't need more work done. On the 15th January she went and had more work done. Now she is on the phone saying she is not happy, her eyes are slanty and she has a slight cat in wind tunnel look about her. I told her look you only had a face lift 4 and a bit years ago, I told her over and over, don't do any more work. You look fine, wait another 10 to 15 years then do a little more, not like only 4 years later. My problem is that I feel like she is just turning herself into a freak and that she is not the Mum I once knew, I can't reason with her anymore, not just on plastic surgery on anything, it is like she has had a mental change not just a cosmetic change...it's really strange but I feel like I have mentally lost Mum that was. I have made excuse after excuse about not being able to go and see her (she lives quite far away) - because honestly, I know that she will be showing me the cuts and stitch marks and going on about how brave all her friends say she is and what do I think, and I don't want to have to say - it looks awful, but I feel I might have to do stop her doing something else in 4 or 5 years when she clearly will not need it. She went to a very reputable surgeon, she used to go like every 4 months, is there anything else you can do, he used to tell her, no you are fine you don't need anything doing, then all of a sudden last Autumn he recomended "endotine" etc....(plenty of info on internet)..and then in January bam it was done. I get the feeling she was bothering him so much that he has done quite a tight job to stop her coming back and back and back. She has seen him 4 times since 15 January for checking and follow up, Mum has complained to him it is too tight, he says it will settle down. I said to Mum it will look tight because honestly you didn't need anything doing..she just dismisses me and says I am not qualified to say. I just don't really want to go and visit, we speak every night on the phone, and I say "how is your face today" and then she moans, but then defends having it done. Now I am blabbing on and on. Basically I feel quilty because I don't want to visit her, what should I do? Visit when I want or just go up and see and get it over with ? PS I am 44 she is 67. Apparently one of her friends exclaimed when they saw her, oh my god you look like you are 8 years old !

Public Comments

1. it sounds to me as though your mum is afraid to look her age, and is insecure about her appearance. She hasn't listened to your concerns or warnings, so perhaps you need to be very direct with her. Try telling her that she already looks VERY young for her age, and that she will look extremely odd and unattractive if she has anything else done to her face. Also, all that surgery will damage her skin, in the long-term.